Friday, December 28, 2012

Maybe Christmas doesn't come from a store

Thanksgiving to New Year's is nuts - for everyone, of course.  But it is especially so for interfaith families who celebrate both, practice neither.  This entails Thanksgiving, 8 nights of Hanukkah, no less than 4 Christmas parties, 2 holiday work parties, and a partridge in a pear tree.

It's crazy and it's stressful - and it's generally a TON of fun.

This year we had the added stressor of my final days at my job, which included a lot of work closing it out, paired with a side of grouchiness as I prepared to exit that (very large) part of my life.  

And truth be told, Quinn hasn't had a great couple of weeks.  She is down almost an entire pound, on a body that is barely on the charts as it is.  There is discussion of home health nurses after the new year and it is just so demoralizing to consider that she may have an extremely severe case of one of the most severe genetic disorders.  

So of course our goal was to make this simultaneously the most extraordinary and most routine holiday season ever.  For while we wanted to give Quinn a tremendous December - after all, ♪ It's the most wonderful time of the year ♪ - we also want her to simply slide into our existing traditions, which goes hand-in-hand with making fabulous memories.  

But no pressure...

Thanksgiving was lovely and small at uncle Brian and aunt Maria's house - a great start to the season.  

That weekend was our first Christmas celebration - our first annual kids' holiday party for the families on our block.  Colin & Reid's friend Luke was a perfect host (read: Luke's awesome parents know how to throw fabulous a party) and Quinn had her first (of four) Santa meet and greets!



Quinn even got a private audience!

We had a great time celebrating the first two nights of Hanukkah by attending our town's Menorah lighting ceremony with Grandma on the first night, and by decorating our Christmas tree immediately prior to lighting the candles and giving the kids Hanukkah gifts with Nanny on the second night.

The final night of Hanukkah was spent with our extended "step" family at Popsie's house with good number of latkes, a bunch of jelly donuts and too many presents!

Happy Hanukkah!
one of Quinn's first Christmas ornaments
decorating the tree with Nanny

Colin, Reid and Quinn enjoyed their second Santa sighting at my family's annual Christmas party where my uncle Gerry dressed up as a very realistic Santa Claus and passed out the 458,921 gifts (only about 83% of which belonged to Quinn and the boys).  And she was privy to Santa Claus in her very own house on Christmas night when he arrived via uncle Brian to pass out the marginally less 264,097 gifts (about 76% of which belonged to Quinn and the boys).  


Reid and uncle Gerry Santa Claus
Colin and his awesome gifts
Quinn and cousin Colleen

right before the mayhem
Colin showing Reid that it is, in fact, a joint gift
Santa brought glitter Toms!
Colin showing Quinn her new dollhouse from Santa Claus
daddy and his boys with the quintessential Christmas gift - big boy bicycles! 
Quinn surveying the aftermath of a truly enjoyable Christmas morning 
this is about as good as it gets :)
Quinny showing off her pretty Christmas dress
Santa Claus came to town!
watching Santa descend the stairs

And last night we had the pleasure of riding the Essex Steam Train to the North Pole!  An old friend of mine from high school actually drives the train on the weekends and invited us up as his guests.  Holy cow - it was sooooo cute!  The boys could not have been more excited to go to Santa's house.  Cookies and hot chocolate were given out, carols were sung and there was even a special gift that Santa dropped from his sack that just so happened to have The Linzer Family name on it - five jingle bells, each of our names on them.

almost as exciting as The North Pole - our hotel had an indoor pool
waiting to depart
this is too cute for words!
Colin joined in the dancing
with my friend from high school, the conductor on that night's trip

It is exhausting living each moment to its fullest, but Quinn has taught us that living any other way simply isn't living.  We even included the sentiments in a sort of pay-it-forward attempt on our holiday cards, from Henry David Thoreau:

Live in the present,
Launch yourself on each wave,
Find eternity in each moment

And truthfully, somehow the most extreme of circumstances - such as the one we find ourselves in - has actually allowed us (read: me) to just chill out.  (Brett even politely inquired if I had ingested any mood altering drugs on Christmas day because I was so non-plussed as we awaited the arrival of our 16 dinner guests haha).   Because really - who cares?!  What's going to happen - dinner may be 20 minutes later? The biscuits may not make it to the table?  The shirt bought for the cousin's aunt's stepdaughter's dog isn't the right color or size?  

None of that matters.

Maybe Christmas doesn't come from the store
Maybe Christmas, perhaps, means a little bit more

So yeah, ok - maybe even the Grinch had it figured out before me, but I got there eventually.  And just in the nick of time. Because who would want to miss one minute of this face stressing about the perfect proportion of candy canes to red velvet bows on the tree?

Santa's Lap
Quinn's Ideawoman: Michelle Mastrande

Quinn's Benefactors: The Pignataro Family, uncle Gerry, uncle Brian, Brian Messinger

Quinn's Wing(wo)men: her friends and family

7 comments:

  1. oh sweet Linzer family! I loved your Christmas week and your hundreds of thousands of Christmas gifts from 4 santas:) It sounded so full of love and fun and friends. What a beautiful way to spend Quinn's first Christmas. I am so sorry she lost weight, my heart sunk. Sending you all of my love in the days ahead as you make every day so special for her and your family. much love ,Chelsea

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  2. What a great holiday season!You are doing such wonderful things and have the best family and friends to share it with!

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  3. Oh Eileen! What awesome photos of such a love-packed holiday. Thank you for sharing with us. I smiled to read about your "chill out ephiphany"! You are absolutely right - it doesn't matter at all what time dinner gets to the table or if the gravy is scorched - taking the time to let the smiles of your beautiful babies light up your life is the only thing that is truly important. Much love to you and yours with many, many wishes for a peaceful year ahead.

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  4. another beautiful post. i think all of us who know the linzers and love the linzers are trying to do more of what you said-living in the moment is so hard but it's the best part of life, isn't it?

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  5. I just found your blog via People magazine. I've been reading some of the posts. The last picture of Quinn made me cry. She has such a beautiful smile and sweet face. Well, she is just beautiful! I also see her beautiful diamond earrings! I will be praying for your family. Quinn is one lucky little girl to have such an amazing family!

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  6. I m living in turkey and just read news sbout your tougher. I m till crying and praying for her.i m very very sorry for your big problem.i hope she will be better....best wishes to your family. ...

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  7. I m so upset about this situation..I living in Turkey too..I want to believe a miracle and God give to you...I have a little daughter too and I can't imagine what can we do in same situation...I respect and find so amazing your family...I wish a miracle for little princess Quinn ...She deserve best and with her wonderfull family...

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